How to Use The Law of Attraction to Build Your Love Relationship
By Jiga
Of the most difficult transitions when I started using the Law of
Attraction for building my love relationship was choosing my input. You
see, we come through life learning how to identify what we do not want
in our love relationships. For most of us, we have little or no idea
what we want in love, but we have a superb description of what we do not
want.
Now, right there - having a superb script of what you do not want - is the primary challenge with our love relationships. Unfortunately, or fortunately, the Law of attraction is much greater than each of us. Therefore, it will work whether or not we are using it knowingly or unknowingly. In other words, if you have a superb script of what you do not want, walk around seeing what you do not want, feel very bad when you see what you do not want, uh oh!
The Law will keep bringing you relationships of, guess what? Yes! The exact relationship with the details you do not want. That was a hard sell for me too! Many of us, particularly if you have a religious background, have lived a life where we learned to pray against things we did not want.
We unconsciously become experts at articulating all the horrific facts of the things we do not want in life. We take those facts and paint a picture to God to show exactly what we do not want. Can you then imagine what it feels like to have all these Law of Attraction wiseacres trying to say we had it all wrong? You are not alone in feeling like using a bad word right there.
Decide to Consciously Use the Law of Attraction
After some time of reading materials on the various uses of the Law of Attraction, you will quickly learn you have two options. You could ignore all the wonderful lessons, keep struggling, and stay unhappy. Alternatively, you could give the ideas a try. After all, if you are already unhappy or dissatisfied, what does it hurt to try something else? Surely one cannot get any more troubled in love than they already are if they are unhappy and dissatisfied, now could they?
When I made this decision, I picked up all the little snippets and worked on a Law of Attraction module for a couple of months. Since I already thought relationships were much too sensitive, I started with something simple where success or failure was not too troublesome. I started by building a perfect picture for my daily trips to work. Within about six months, I was amused to note that I was enjoying a rare experience around my peers.
I hardly ever ran into traffic, irritating drivers, inexplicable hold ups, and all those annoying situations that are typical in my home town. I would sit in conversations with friends and feel like we lived on two different planets. So whether I wanted to argue or not, this Law of Attraction thing certainly had something.
Move on to the More Delicate Issues with Courage
I will not pretend that having this kind of data enabled me to jump right in and start to work on my relationships. I had too much emotional attachment to success or failure to do experiments with things that were too important for me. In my love relationship, I took it real slow.
For instance, if I was looking forward to a weekend with my significant other, I would put myself into the energy or emotional state of having a great time. Since it was hard to predict that we would be going out to do this or that, I made it my habit to keep in a state of pleasure in my relationship as much as possible.
With time, I noticed two things; first, my partner and I were quickly drifting into two completely different zones. We would be walking together and he would get into situations that would really rub him the wrong way, and I would be right there next to him having a completely undisturbed experience. The second thing you can almost guess happened is the relationship started to degenerate into incompatibility. I let the relationship go, but with a new found commitment.
Make a decision to work with the Laws in the more important areas of your life such as love and relationship. This article is not to suggest that everything will turn around instantly the moment you start re-wiring your mind to find fulfilment. Some zones you have lived on simply have to be shed off for you to enter into a more empowering relationship.
It all starts with a decision. You have a choice to be happy. Or you can choose to keep hanging onto a relationship which is displeasing. The idea is not to let go of the relationship first. The idea is to get your wiring for what you want righted first. If the relationship you have survives, wonderful! If it falls apart, it is because something better is coming. It will take courage to make this conclusion, but you are a courageous person. Go for it, you shall not fail!
Now, right there - having a superb script of what you do not want - is the primary challenge with our love relationships. Unfortunately, or fortunately, the Law of attraction is much greater than each of us. Therefore, it will work whether or not we are using it knowingly or unknowingly. In other words, if you have a superb script of what you do not want, walk around seeing what you do not want, feel very bad when you see what you do not want, uh oh!
The Law will keep bringing you relationships of, guess what? Yes! The exact relationship with the details you do not want. That was a hard sell for me too! Many of us, particularly if you have a religious background, have lived a life where we learned to pray against things we did not want.
We unconsciously become experts at articulating all the horrific facts of the things we do not want in life. We take those facts and paint a picture to God to show exactly what we do not want. Can you then imagine what it feels like to have all these Law of Attraction wiseacres trying to say we had it all wrong? You are not alone in feeling like using a bad word right there.
Decide to Consciously Use the Law of Attraction
After some time of reading materials on the various uses of the Law of Attraction, you will quickly learn you have two options. You could ignore all the wonderful lessons, keep struggling, and stay unhappy. Alternatively, you could give the ideas a try. After all, if you are already unhappy or dissatisfied, what does it hurt to try something else? Surely one cannot get any more troubled in love than they already are if they are unhappy and dissatisfied, now could they?
When I made this decision, I picked up all the little snippets and worked on a Law of Attraction module for a couple of months. Since I already thought relationships were much too sensitive, I started with something simple where success or failure was not too troublesome. I started by building a perfect picture for my daily trips to work. Within about six months, I was amused to note that I was enjoying a rare experience around my peers.
I hardly ever ran into traffic, irritating drivers, inexplicable hold ups, and all those annoying situations that are typical in my home town. I would sit in conversations with friends and feel like we lived on two different planets. So whether I wanted to argue or not, this Law of Attraction thing certainly had something.
Move on to the More Delicate Issues with Courage
I will not pretend that having this kind of data enabled me to jump right in and start to work on my relationships. I had too much emotional attachment to success or failure to do experiments with things that were too important for me. In my love relationship, I took it real slow.
For instance, if I was looking forward to a weekend with my significant other, I would put myself into the energy or emotional state of having a great time. Since it was hard to predict that we would be going out to do this or that, I made it my habit to keep in a state of pleasure in my relationship as much as possible.
With time, I noticed two things; first, my partner and I were quickly drifting into two completely different zones. We would be walking together and he would get into situations that would really rub him the wrong way, and I would be right there next to him having a completely undisturbed experience. The second thing you can almost guess happened is the relationship started to degenerate into incompatibility. I let the relationship go, but with a new found commitment.
Make a decision to work with the Laws in the more important areas of your life such as love and relationship. This article is not to suggest that everything will turn around instantly the moment you start re-wiring your mind to find fulfilment. Some zones you have lived on simply have to be shed off for you to enter into a more empowering relationship.
It all starts with a decision. You have a choice to be happy. Or you can choose to keep hanging onto a relationship which is displeasing. The idea is not to let go of the relationship first. The idea is to get your wiring for what you want righted first. If the relationship you have survives, wonderful! If it falls apart, it is because something better is coming. It will take courage to make this conclusion, but you are a courageous person. Go for it, you shall not fail!
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